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- What does it mean to forgive someone?
- Do you think it is always possible?
- Is it necessary?
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Forgiveness
Here's an interesting topic to think about - forgiveness.
Read the first part of this article (read at least to where it says "Find out More.")
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-13154300
Read the first part of this article (read at least to where it says "Find out More.")
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-13154300
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I agree fully for forgiving people. We can forgive someone who did stuff Not on purpose. but for someone who did stuff on purpose and apologize can be forgiven but it's in everyone's hand to forgive this person or not. forgiveness is all about trusting one another.
ReplyDeleteTep
for me, to forgive someone is to stop myself from being angry or willing to take a revenge back to them. i admit that sometimes it's so hard to forgive, but when i start to think deeper, i realize that living a life with forgiveness would make us happier. forgiving is so important. if we don't forgive. revenges just keep going on... when will there be no more revenges?
ReplyDeleteMonineath
To forgive someone mean stop angry with he/she that do something wrong to you. I don't think it is always possible to forgive someone. For me it is necessary to forgive someone that know their mistake.
ReplyDeleteNissa
Late comment
ReplyDeleteIt is very necessary to 4give one another. And it is very possible that the suspect can change their ways
Tep
Forgive someone is stop angry with them and I think it do not always possible to forgive them.For me it is really necessary to forgives someone if they know their mistakes and say "Sorry" to me.
ReplyDeleteVisal
Forgive means to stop angry or bitter on someone, who did a mistake. Some people said it's not that easy to forgive. But i think it's really possible to forgive, I meant I'm all for it. Anybody can make a mistake and sooner they would realize on what they did and they'd feel sorry for that mistakes. Apologizes isn't mean to ask for forgiveness but, It's everyone's hands to make a decision between, to forgive or not.
ReplyDeleteRoath.
As everyone knows, and as I know, ''Forgiveness'' actually means to halt your anger toward a person who have mistaken on either to you or the one who you really close with. Forgiveness doesn't always 100% possible, it depends on situations whether it's really a major problem to you or it can be teeny-tiny speck for you which you can just blow it away. Well, everyone might think it's very easy to get someone to have their forgiveness on the others, what if it's happen to you? what if your parents got murdered? Do you still want to forgive the murderer? Of course it's necessary to have your forgiveness, but doesn't that means that you have them kill your parents without letting themselves enjoying their lives in jail?
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Tep, I’m very intrigued by saying that forgiveness is about trusting each other. Can you explain what you mean by this?
ReplyDeleteRoath, good point that anyone can make a mistake – we all need to be forgiven! But I didn’t understand this part: “Apologizes isn’t mean to ask for forgiveness” Can you explain?
Nissan and Visal – If someone isn’t sorry, does that mean you will never forgive them?
Ati – Good questions. I’d like to respond. I think it’s easy to forgive people when the harm is small. It’s harder to forgive when someone seriously harms us or someone we love. I guess the question is – if I don’t forgive someone, who am I hurting? I think I am hurting myself, because it means that I am holding anger and resentment inside myself. For me, forgiving someone doesn’t mean that I am saying what they did is ok. It just means I have finally gotten to the point when I can let go of the bitterness. But I think it can take a very long time to get to this point…
In my opinion, forgiving someone for what he or she has done, is necessary but it becomes reality only if the mistakes weren't committed too seriously or on purpose. Wrongdoings are committed and forgiveness are also needed.However, it is not that easy and to open your heart and "really" forget about what someone did to you that then made you suffer. If everyone makes less worse mistakes,more real forgiveness will be made by more people across the world.
ReplyDeleteP.2
Forgiving someone is to stop thinking ,talking,remembering for the faults that they have done to us or to any of our beloved people.For Me,although i can get angry easily but my anger melts soon after i got angry. Forgiveness can't be always possible because for some people Forgiving is not an easy thing to do. They just can't stop their anger. but the main point for forgiving someone depends on the fault that they've done. Is it big? Is It serious? who did they do to? Have They ever regretted for their fault? Am I sure that i can forgive them? this is all what we have to think before we FORGIVE somebody. Well,Forgive is absolutely vital. Without forgiveness, we won't feel comfortable or happy again in your life , even you are the one who did it or the one that got it. Forgiving someone may have the advantages because after forgive someone we're sure feeling nice and comfortable,No more anger exists in our heart and just feel like the world is so wonderful. Of course, we will think in a more optimistic way than before we forgive,feel like you are not the unluckiest person in the world, feel we are new and fresh. But the doer MUST regret for what they've done, feel sorry for the one they did to and ask formally for forgiveness and please make sure DON'T EVER REPEAT THE MISTAKES again. Forgive is not always possible!! Once is your luck. Twice is ENOUGH ! No More is available.
ReplyDelete-EniX-
In my opinion, it's hard to forgive some one when they have done something really bad to you. If someone killed my sister, I would take revenge because they probably won't know how it feels
ReplyDeleteRotha
Nix, sounds like you have a lot of strong feelings. It also sounds like you think it is essential, but that the person who hurt someone has to regret it. If they don't, is it still essential that we forgive? At the end of your comment, you say that the doer must regret... But if I'm not the doer, I don't have control over what the doer feels. Do I wait for the doer to apologize before I forgive? Or is it essential for me to forgive whether or not he/she regrets it? And do you mean that we can only be forgiven twice in our lives? Or twice by the same person? :) Thanks for your thoughtful post.
ReplyDeleteWhen talking about the topic of forgiveness, we must think what forgiveness really mean, and to me it means to no longer hold a grudge or vendetta over someone who has done something wrong towards you or someone close to you. Forgiveness can either be the easiest thing to do or the hardest, it all depends on the person. Some people can forgive others for strenuous wrongdoings, like murder. While others can't even forgive people for the silly mistakes they made.
ReplyDeleteForgiveness is a very important aspect of everyday life. There will always be something to forgive, for example you might be in a coffee shop and the waiter might trip and spill coffee over your shirt. This kind of thing happens all the time and you should let bygones be bygones, besides what would you gain from having a grudge with someone over something that happened accidentally?
-Siphan
THX Teacher For Ur Questions . if they don't even know their faults,how could we forgive them? this is absolutely impossible. we couldn't forgive them because they are wrong but they don't even know what they are wrong for so then will forgiving them has any meaning? the answer is NOPE . Yeah,sure. the doer must regret their faults and apologize . but not only mouth saying"I'm sorry." is enough. what we need is their actions also ! they need to show us by their actions that they've already regretted for what they have done,please apologize them and promise not to do that kind of faults again . and for the your last question, i mean the doer can be forgiven for 2 times only as a survey of me asking my close friends. what i wrote in the comment is "Once is your luck! Twice is enough !" i want to mean that if s.o did wrong for the first time then he/she is forgiven. SO that's is his/her good lucks to get it . For the second time if he/she is forgiven again so then it is the best luck ever in his/her life .if he/she does it again for the 3rd time, it's the end. they told me no more forgiveness could be offered because they will have already forgiven them twice for the same fault.this is according to most people said and for me it is real,i feel that way also although people will always make mistakes but in this condition they are not just doing. What they do is REPEATING the same mistakes. Can we stand them? same,same every time we are people, we can get annoyed of the same mistakes repeating .we can be tolerant but our tolerance is limited also. anyway,if we can always forget what they have done to us, so we can always forgive them as many many times they did it ! but can we forget the painful experience ever? if we keep seeing it repeated?
ReplyDelete-EniX- :)
EniX,
ReplyDeletethanks for your response. Wow, you put a lot of thought into it. I understand more now how you think about forgiveness.
I can understand not wanting to keep forgiving someone for the same thing over and over again. This could show that they don't really take it seriously, are not trying to change their behavior, or maybe they don't understand how it is hurting the person.
For me, forgetting does not always go with forgiving. I think it's important to remember the past. I can understand what you say about needing the other person to understand what they did wrong and to sincerely apologize, not just with words. This is what we would all like to see happen.
But this will not always happen. So will I stay angry, bitter, and resentful at them for my whole life because they didn't apologize or feel sorry for what they did? I hope not, because it would make my own life unhappy.
What you say is important. I like that you say "but not only mouth saying"I'm sorry."
I hope we can all see the things that we have done to hurt someone and change our behavior for the better. I also hope people in the world can practice more forgiveness and less war!
Thanks for all your thoughts! Good job expressing yourself - and in English! :)
:) yeah,teacher ! i also agree for what u said ! people have different thoughts about that. what you hoped is very similar to what i hope also. i hope people can think more deeply before they decide to do things,me also. anyway if we don't what is wrong, we won't be able to figure out what is right also. we've learnt lots from our mistakes and we remain learning from that.
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